Okay people, you sensitive types should go read the paper. Today's post is about masturbation and I have no idea what I'm about to say so hold on to your sheets! Well, I don't know, maybe I won't be all that risqué, but don't say I didn't warn you.
Although my mother was very explicit about sex and teaching me all of the parts of males and females, she never discussed masturbation with me, so I never grew up with this idea that it was either good or bad. I just knew that it felt good when I rubbed stuff up against my crotch. It started when I was about 12 I guess. I used to sleep with my teddy bear and for some reason or another at about that time I figured out that rubbing it against my crotch was fun. I did a lot of experimenting with different methods but not much changed. I really prefer doing it with my clothes on as I tend not to penetrate myself when I do it. When I saw pornography films for the first time, I was a little embarrassed because I realized that I didn't masturbate the same as other women; I wondered if I was wrong or strange.
Don't worry, I won't ask you how you masturbate, but were you taught it was wrong?
Personally, I don't buy into the whole 'masturbating is the devil's way of getting you to wastefully spill your seed' belief. I'm a Christian, and I have read the bible several times, and as far as I am concerned the New Testament is the time we are supposed to be living in and there is nowhere in the New Testament that says anything about masturbating.
But even if you aren't Christian, some non-Christians disapprove of masturbating as well. I totally don't get it. I guess this is why I don't have a problem with watching pornography depicting two consenting adults having sex - it doesn't bother me to watch it and I don't care if my husband watches it. Somewhere down the line, I learned that this was wrong too; I learned from television and friends that my husband shouldn't watch porn. I can't muster the emotion to care whether or not my husband watches porn - I'm too busy trying to decide what nasty little flick I want to watch myself :)
Tomorrow, Back To The Future - No Really. . .
My parents didnt really talk about sex or masturbation when i was younger. It was never taboo or anything but i think because my mum wasnt really around, it got left down to my dad...& that was never going to happen. I remember my brother saying something about it once though, but nothing detailed. So i was never taught that is was wrong or right haha
ReplyDeleteI've just noticed you've got 'finishing yourself off' as a label. that made me laugh. brilliant!
ReplyDeleteKim, do you watch porn? Do you think it's wrong to watch it?
ReplyDeletePS, I can't imagine my father trying to tell me about sex - I think I would vomit.
"so hold onto your sheets!" Haha clever. Supporting and following. alphabetalife.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteJessica, thanks for stopping by - I am on my way to your site now.
ReplyDeleteIntamacy is one subject I was not told about. "It seems like when we get married and we let ourselves go in some one's arm, it is because they married us." An old friend of my Mom said that to me. My daughter always finds it strange that we let our parents decide who we marry. Now, when it comes to self pleasuring girls get married at a very young age in India so the occasion does not arise for them to talk to us about it.
ReplyDeleteI do not have a crush on any one. It is just that a lot of young kids in our extended family are stuck with students loans and I felt sorry for them. People think that just because doctors make money, all that they make is theirs, when it is not true.
Perhaps you don't have a crush - but you must admit he is a very good looking guy :)
ReplyDeleteAre your daughters in arranged marriages?
Sorry to be so scarce these days, I just have too many things going on. I'm not a fan of Porn at all, and it's partly a morality issue but mostly because of the way it degrades women. I watched an HBO (at least I think it was HBO) special once about the porn industry, and I was sickened at how women were thought of and treated. It's exploitation at it's worst. Plus it's addictive. I pretty much try to avoid anything that's addictive because I tend to have a problem with self control with certain things. As for masterbation, I was absolutely taught it was bad. Now that I can think for myself I say if it feels good DO IT!
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